I would consider your self as a very normal teen in a world of testing, exploring your surroundings and testing your self for self assurance. In this world that you are part of, is trying new things and testing what is right for your self, and where you fit in.
Most all of us do this in a manner that fits our time and place. Yes, your parents were probably extremely perplexed as to the taste in clothing and music of their young son. But each of us includant of our respective parents know that as simular, they conducted them selves is such manner as to find out where they stood in this world they were introduced from birth to their present time, and most likely their parents were equally perplexed as yours were under similar situation.
But then perhaps I am in the wrong book and on the wrong page.
I was heavy into the New Wave subculture and music in my late teens and twenties
They call that Indie (Independent), Underground or alternative life style in the USA.
You had bars, clubs, dancings/discotheques who were focussed on New Wave and Gothic metal, Punk Rock and hard rock. Places where you could head bang and pogo dance.
Girls like this girls were in those bars, clubs and hang outs. Black clothes, black make up, pale faces, spider webs, Black the Cure like hair styles, and T-shirts and patches of New Wave bands on their jackets.
The thing was to be different than the masses. I wore my hard rock T-shirts, the New Wave girls had their Gothic looks and the Punks had their looks.
A night life of going out with Bohemians, artists, rockers, these New Wave people, dancers, theatre people, musicians, different people (than common people) was what I liked. I escaped from the boring, provincial, conservative, backward and limiting Zeeland province to a small world city and found all kinds of people there, that city was Amsterdam. There my social life started. Also my professional life started there by laying the foundation of studying.