Through the years I encountered a few people with Narcissist and Borderline characteristic. Their anti-social, stalking, lack of empathy, disturbing egocentric and sometimes dominant, sadistic and abusive behaviour can be very, very destructive. I am sure you know people in your area's (states) in the USA and Mexico. Because Narcissist and Borderline personalities are everywhere.
Don't get me wrong, but some people with other diagnosis like Autism, Adhd, psychotic behaviour can also have party Narcissist or borderline traits. For instance the autistic colleague Jaga suffered from.
An excellent book about Borderline is 'Borderline Times - The end of normailty' of the Belgian Flemish psychiatrist Dirk de Wachter.
Dirk De Wachter
Dirk August Jozef De Wachter (Wilrijk, 3 March 1960) is a Belgian psychiatrist and professor.
De Wachter grew up in Boom. He is a professor at the KU Leuven and is connected to the University Psychiatric Center of Kortenberg.
Dirk De Wachter has gained fame in Flanders through his articles in various newspapers, in which he was often asked for his opinion after violent crimes such as the stabbing in Sint-Gillis-bij-Dendermonde or traffic aggression. He became more famous in both Belgium and the Netherlands after his book Borderline Times was published in October 2012 and became a success book. In the book the author criticizes the Western world. According to De Wachter, Western society meets the nine criteria of Borderline. In 2008 he already wrote about Borderline Times in Psyche: Magazine of the VVGG. In De Wachter his second book: Love. An impossible desire? De Wachter writes about the love that in Western society, in his eyes, has become part of the consumer society. Compared with his previous book, the author uses art and literature to clarify his opinion. He also writes and talks a lot about the psychiatry of society and has repeatedly implicitly criticized this by using, among other things, the term "swab" (of the world / society), referring to the world-famous doctor and neurobiologist Dick Swaab.
He says he is very influenced by philosopher Emmanuel Levinas and writer Michel Houellebecq, whom he regularly quotes in his lectures.
Since 2009, De Wachter has appeared regularly in the media as a speaker or guest in the Netherlands and Belgium. He was a guest in the Dutch program De Verwondering in 2017 and the following year. He has also given lectures at the Roma in Antwerp, Stadsschouwburg in Nijmegen and elsewhere. He had a debate on the theme of 'happiness' in the Jacobikerk in Utrecht. He has also been a guest in a talk show such as Van Gils & guests, the Appointment and De Wereld Draait Door.
In 2019 he was in conversation with the well-known author Herman Brusselmans in the auditorium of the Permeke Library and talked to him about his new work The table, his oeuvre and his life course.
De Wachter has three children with his wife.
I have this book in my possession and it is one of the best Dutch language books I have read the last years. I hope that this book will be translated in English, German, French, Polish, Russian and other languages.
- Stress, trauma and dissociation: a family-oriented approach, dissertation University of Amsterdam, 2007 - Borderline Times, Leuven, 2012 - Love. An impossible desire ?, Leuven, 2014 - The world of De Wachter, Leuven, 2016
Listen from 10:48 onwards. There he gives his English lecture at the Residential of Belgium Ambassador in Tanzania to support the work of Child-Help International for the children with Spina bifida and hydrocephalus.
I had a half Polish friend with Borderline personality in Arnhem. She was nice, warm, entertaining, intelligent, but too controlling and paranoia. This made our friendship difficult, because she was extremely controlling, had eating disorders, was cutting herself and could become sometimes very emotional. Her Polish father was in a German nazi concentration camp during the war as a Polish Roman Catholic prisoner and had experienced terrible traumatic things over there, he had issues with anger management and abuse of his children, and his Dutch wife was rather simple and rude and discriminatory towards him. So she had no stabile base despite the fact that my friend was a nice person. I couldn't erase wrongdoings in her past, and couldn't deal with her Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) sometimes.
Her distorted and unstable self-image, which affects moods, values, opinions, goals and relationships. Her self-harming behavior including suicidal threats or attempts was hard to deal with as a friend. My friend also suffered from Anxiety Disorders, a Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, a Bipolar Disorder, Depressions and Eating Disorders. She was a good person and a person who worked hard to sustain herself in her job and private life. Still she was dependent on her anti-deprissive medication and the help and care of her psychiatrist. Have you folks have similar experiences?
Due to life in Amsterdam, the Hague and Arnhem I have experienced manic depressive, clinal depressive, psychotic, schyzofrenic, psychotic, alcoholic, autistic and adhd kind of people. And maybe people with other disorders I wasn't aware of.