Baby boom in Poland

[pieter]

pawian said:

zooba said:

Jaga, the baby boom is actually here. The hospital maternity wards are so full that they send women away (imagine the stress).
In my workplace, although there are 20 women in "reproductive" age only one is pregnant and this is me
But I'm not telling at work, I don't want nasty comments.

We are honoured and proud that you shared this news with us first and not your workmates. We won`t disappoint you and will support you in most important moments like a family.

Simple congratulations aren`t enough. It is obvious that you are happy and proud.

I would like to congratulate you on behalf of this country, Poland, our beloved motherland, who certainly needs more citizens.
Not just simple citizens, but people like you. I mean beautiful and attractive, intelligent and reasonable, good tempered and charitable, tolerant and open, with knowledge of languages and possessing the ability to drink freely from the cup of European culture, not forgetting the Polish heritage at the same time.

Your children certainly take after her mother and the gain for the country will be unmeasurable.

I am so happy.

PS. I almpost forgot to ask questions: which sex would you like for the baby?

I just say, Zooba congratulations, and I stand behind Pawians words!
You are a very fine lady, come from the same city as my Polish family
and are the sort of Polish realist (pragmatic person) I like!

Pieter

Arnhem, Holland

[zooba]

Thank you for all the good words


Pawian, I actually thought I'm doing a favor to Poland as well I know we need more babies.
How could you keep your news hidden for so long?? My tongue is itching constantly (I don't know if this phrase is understandable), I must fight with myself not to tell everybody.

Now, please, keep your fingers crossed for me or pray, the pregnancy is not going well, all may happen.

[leslie]

Zooba
You were writing to Pawi particularly, but I couldn't help reading that your pregnancy is not going well. You have my every best and warmest wish, and the sincerest of my prayers, that all will in fact go well and we all have to congratulate you.
Pozdrawiam bardzo serdecznie
Leslie

[zooba]

Leslie, I was writing to you, All, but it sounded strange for me and I deleted the word "all".

Thank you

[bescheid]

zooba said:

Leslie, I was writing to you, All, but it sounded strange for me and I deleted the word "all".

Thank you

Zooba

Think not for a moment you are alone!! For also do I have the problem, and my English is highly excellent {well some times a problem of comprehension}.

The usage of {all} is some times confusing, and if confused, I will avoid the word to avoid a possible mistake.

For your English and that of Pawian is very highly excellent, for you both must be admired. As for my self, I am not linguistic. Attempted to try to learn Spanish {Argentine} and gave up. Afrikaans is not so bad as it is some what similar to Niedersächisch.

Just thank the stars for the spell check feature........

Charles

[rdywenur]

Zooba just pretend you are from south Poland and is should be no problem. The southerners here in the USA say you all in every sentence. (or you'al) example How you"all doin ;D ) They may be talking to just one person but its always you'all ;D ;D ;D

[zooba]

I am not sure how to say all this but I have to - I have lost the baby, it died in my womb in the 6th week of pregnancy. last week I had a kind of surgery to remove it and "clean" the uterus.
Now I'm recovering at home, will come back to work next week.

I must say that the hospital staff was very gentle and helpful, the same the girls I shared the room with. At least some good in this misery.

My husband is an optimist, wants to start new attempts but he's just a man, I'll forgive him.

I am depressed and sad but not devastated - thanks God - have my kids.

[hollister]

Zooba,
I am so, so sorry. I read your post and cried. My prayers will be with you and your family in the days ahead.
Hollister

[zooba]

Please, don't cry over me. If this was meant to happen, it happened in the most gentle way for me - not when I have felt the baby kicking or have seen it born. This would be so much more terrible for all my family.

I'm trying to make sense out of it, to find the message in it - but it might as well be: I'm too old for another baby, don't try... or it can be: look, you really want the third one, just prepare better.

But thank you for the prayers

[Pawian]

zooba said:

I can`t find words suitable to express my sorrow for you.

As a man I can only try to imagine what you feel, but I should say that it happened to us too. We had already had one son when we were struck with the loss of the next baby in the same way, in early period of pregnancy. We didn`t have time to start loving it....

But later we had two more sons who are in excellent health so don`t give up hope.

[bescheid]

Zooba

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. We as people do not know or understand for why some thing as of this has happened or for what reason. For we are only human beings!

You do have some thing though that is very precious! For you have a loving husband and two precious little ones. For they need and love you very much.

Charles

[leslie]

Zooba
I know you are trying to take this terrible loss in a strong way. It may help to know - and though I am only speaking for myself here, I am sure I am speaking for a lot more of the people who 'know' you - you are in our thoughts, and for those with faith, in our prayers. I speak as a mere man - it is only you who can determine the future. Take your time and enjoy your kids. May God bless you.
Leslie

[jeanne]

Zooba,

I, too, am so sorry to hear of your loss. I also went through the same thing and felt the feelings of loss and depression. Just remember to give yourself the time and permission to really grieve because it was a definite loss and not something that can be quickly put behind you.

Jeanne

[Jaga]

Zooba,

I am sorry to hear about it. Thanks for sharing, it is very hard. Enjoy the children you have! My good friend lost a baby when she was 40 and she could not get pregnant again in spite of the surgery and she does not have any children at all since she was married late.
So, enjoy the children you already have!

[kaima]

Zooba,

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Just yesterday I visited my oldest sister for the first time I remember. She died before I was born; it was a great tragedy for our parents, as she was four years old and died of lukemia. My brother located the grave and four years ago we (siblings) placed a marker stone on the grave. Another friend and his wife also lost a baby at full term and it is still a very heavy topic for him - and so heavy for her that I don't dare raise the topic.

It seems to me that the greatest burden in life is to lose a child. I hope that you fully recover your health and that you and your husband overcome this loss with time.

Kai