Is this true about Polish Culture!

[seal]

Hi there,
I am a non- pole and married to a polish man. We have been together for three years and been married for one year. Was happily married until one day my husband friend (girl) and her husband decided to move together in a shared house in the intention to save money. I was not very happy but I agried with my husband thinking he must be having good reason. My husband work night and i work day time. One day I went work in the morning and when i came back from work I saw my husband friend(girl) with my husband outside in the back garden cleaning. It was a hot day and the girl took her top off and started cleaning the garden with her bra. I was not happy with this behaviour and told my husband but he said I am being jealous for nothing its polish culture. I still was not happy but I just let it go not to look silly. But the following day I went to work and when I came back this time my husband was with his boxer and the girl was top less lying next to each other having sun bath. For me this was abnormal behaviour for friends. When the girl's husband was at work and I was at work. I took their pictures and waited for the girl's husband to came back from work, I showed him the pictures and said that I am not happy with his wife exposing herself around the house. the husband turn round and said thats ok for her to do so that because its polish culture. I totally understand that when you are at the beach with your husband you can be whatever you want and how you want. For me a women needs to be respectful. Is it true its polish culture to behave like this with firends!!! I may be wrong but I have friends too but will never do such thing being a married woman. This is bothering me because they are using polish culture for such disrespectful act! Please respond to my post I want to get as many Polish man and woman views. Thanks

[Jaga]

seal,

no, this is not normal behavior in Poland. Maybe it is more normal in Germany but not in Poland. I suspect that this girl has too much time and your husband probably wants to try something else
You should ask these friends to move out immediately and see what would be your husband reaction.

[pieter]

Seal,

I agree with Jaga, although I am not a Pole, but Poland is a Western- and European country,
so European culture and values are present there. Poland is not a nudist country and in my
eyes has a decent Catholic society with monogamous values.

Ofcourse in every society you have people who are differant, polygamous, Promiscuous, but
like in the US, Germany and the Netherlands these people are a tiny minority.

Most Poles are traditional people with family values and social (ethical) standards.
The behavior of your husbant and the friend of your husbant is strange, also the
reaction of her husbant is strange. Again I agree with Jaga.

Cheers,
Pieter

[indianamike]

Can some one please send her address, and some photo's.

Mike

[seal]

I have photos Mike and they will be out in good times. I want more responds from polish women and men about these people trying to soiled your culture by their disrespectful behaviour and trying to make people beleive that this is polish culture. !!!

[seal]

Thanks Jaga, Pieter and Indianamike. You don't know how much your opinion means to me. These people have been treat so badly and telling everyone that I am crazy for reacting. But deep inside myself I know that I am not wrong and this behaviour is not acceptable in any culture and specially like Jaga said if you are from a decent catholic background this is wrong. I feel much better to know I am not going crazy like these people trying to make themself better by making me believe that this is normal.

[indianamike]

This could be a American way, for some, but not all. You must do what you know you need do, in your heart and mind. I don't know what I would do under this spot, but I am sure, I would think it over a few times, before I did anything.

Mike

[arlene]

Everybody are doing it. Not only Polish.
Some people prefer to have another groups in their home. Some have swinging party all the time.

I really don't care for this type of lifestyles. Two some, three some or four some people do things together like going on vacations and go lot of places together.

I still wouldn't do it. It is like that all over the world. All you have to say: NO!

[indianamike]

Arlene, are you missing out? Have you ever tried this? You some times, can't say something is good or bad unless you have tried it.
Just joking, stay the way you are, one on one, only, at a time.
Some of these people are just use the other person, for themselfs.

Mike

[arlene]

Hi Everybody!

This is your lifestyles. You choose how you wanted to live.

Here is more information!!!!! Read On.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swinging

[indianamike]

My last post to you Arlene, was just a joke. I think you are a fine lady. I don't mean to upset you, and no I am not a swinger.

Mike

[arlene]

Jul 20, 2010 11:16:06 GMT -7 indianamike said:

My last post to you Arlene, was just a joke. I think you are a fine lady. I don't mean to upset you, and no I am not a swinger.

Mike

I am not upseting. I am only explaining to everybody. I noticed others didn't understand what I am saying about swinging party. I guess they never heard of it. I heard about it throught co-workers who were talking about it. We used to worked for Newspaper Company. We know it before it get to whole worlds next day. I am interesting about what happening.

Thanks Mike!

P.S. I am not writer like Jaga, Karl, Pieter, Nictor and others.

[seal]

Hi everyone,

my husband and I we are seperated now over one month. Within that time he has not call me once or try to contact me. well I am sure I made the right decision to seperate from him. I will pray for him everyday for him to be happy in his life. I was very upset and angry wasz thinking all kinds wanting to take revenge but thank God all those feelings have disappeared and I just want to forgive him so we can both move on.

[indianamike]

You don't need to forgive him, he was wrong, not you. Now go on with your life, and in time, you may find a good one. My wife did, and so can you. Don't give up on all men, along with me, there are still many good ones out there, just keep your eyes open, so you know it, when a good one comes along.

Mike

[arlene]

Jul 24, 2010 15:10:49 GMT -7 seal said:

Hi everyone,

my husband and I we are seperated now over one month. Within that time he has not call me once or try to contact me. well I am sure I made the right decision to seperate from him. I will pray for him everyday for him to be happy in his life. I was very upset and angry wasz thinking all kinds wanting to take revenge but thank God all those feelings have disappeared and I just want to forgive him so we can both move on.

Well, Seal,

You did lied to all of us. Telling me I misunderstood you. I knew there was something fishing about your thread in beginning.

We are here to help people. We don't playing games. Now I will not help you. Sorry for your mental cruelty with your husband.

This is my last post to you.