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Post by Jaga on Jun 3, 2014 23:12:07 GMT -7
This last year at school taught me more about human psychology than the last 10 years in deserts of Idaho..... If you want to work with kids you need to grow thick skin, use sense of humor, sarcasm....this is what I could sometimes use for my nasty kids (by the way, they were trying to use it on me): www.howcast.com/videos/384375-How-to-Craft-the-Perfect-Insult- there is a video there Steps STEP 1 Find a point of weakness Find a point of weakness in your victim. Look for imperfections that can be easily targeted with an insult. If you know the victim, consider focusing on features of their personality that can be exploited. STEP 2 Make your insult the punch line Just like a joke, a demeaning insult depends on timing. Start with a short setup that piques their interest. When you've got their attention, finish with a witty punch line. STEP 3 Use sarcasm Use sarcasm to push their buttons. Say the opposite of what you mean but speak in a slow, exaggerated manner, like when talking to a child. People love it when you do that. Using too much sarcasm can imply a lack of wit, so use it sparingly. STEP 4 Use your body language Keep cool, calm, and collected while you dole out a verbal lashing. Appearing stressed, nervous, or angry undermines your power. STEP 5 Insult in deed Don't rely on words alone; insult your foe with your actions. Exclude them from group activities, carelessly defile things that are important to them, and use dismissive behavior like forgetting their name or the fact that you've met before. STEP 6 Use these elements in concert Practice mixing and matching various techniques to find an insult style that suits you. Now when someone crosses you, you'll be ready to put them in their place. |
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Post by Nictoshek on Jun 4, 2014 3:17:57 GMT -7
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Post by karl on Jun 4, 2014 7:35:51 GMT -7
This last year at school taught me more about human psychology than the last 10 years in deserts of Idaho..... If you want to work with kids you need to grow thick skin, use sense of humor, sarcasm....this is what I could sometimes use for my nasty kids (by the way, they were trying to use it on me): www.howcast.com/videos/384375-How-to-Craft-the-Perfect-Insult- there is a video there Steps STEP 1 Find a point of weakness Find a point of weakness in your victim. Look for imperfections that can be easily targeted with an insult. If you know the victim, consider focusing on features of their personality that can be exploited. STEP 2 Make your insult the punch line Just like a joke, a demeaning insult depends on timing. Start with a short setup that piques their interest. When you've got their attention, finish with a witty punch line. STEP 3 Use sarcasm Use sarcasm to push their buttons. Say the opposite of what you mean but speak in a slow, exaggerated manner, like when talking to a child. People love it when you do that. Using too much sarcasm can imply a lack of wit, so use it sparingly. STEP 4 Use your body language Keep cool, calm, and collected while you dole out a verbal lashing. Appearing stressed, nervous, or angry undermines your power. STEP 5 Insult in deed Don't rely on words alone; insult your foe with your actions. Exclude them from group activities, carelessly defile things that are important to them, and use dismissive behavior like forgetting their name or the fact that you've met before. STEP 6 Use these elements in concert Practice mixing and matching various techniques to find an insult style that suits you. Now when someone crosses you, you'll be ready to put them in their place. Jaga It is interesting your description and experience as a school mistress. Yes, it is all about psychology/sociology {two different opposite tools, but for a common purpose}. Young people trying to learn as quickly as nature and their environment will allow them to develop to meet the out side world on terms they understand. For as you are their direct link up with the reality they will eventually face, they place their needs to know of how far to the right they are allowed to go, to that of how far to the left is an option they may have. These young people are still children in the desquise of an adult, and this is the problem, how to treat them in a manner that will not conflict to one or the other. It is a situation that is to only you to deal with. For most of these young people, do not have the option of guidance from their parents, with out fear of reprisel of some sort, but must only look to you for their guidance. In this manner, places you in a very sensitive position as not only their learner, but their chief adviser and confident. And yes, it is difficult, but once some of these young people have received their education and advanced training. They must have the tools to face the real world of business and presenting costly and risky presentations, that may effect their working careers. Karl |
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Post by kaima on Jun 4, 2014 10:06:02 GMT -7
It is interesting your description and experience as a school mistress. These young people are still children in the desquise of an adult, and this is the problem, how to treat them in a manner that will not conflict to one or the other. Jaga, I am glad you survived the tough first year! Not only that, but this thread indicates you learned well from the experience. The toughest year we had in grade school - rather, the toughest year for our teacher was 6th grade. We drove her crazy, quite deliberately and with full malice. She moved on to another school after that. It was her first year teaching, I believe. The next year we were back to the toughest nuns in the house. In 9th grade I switched from Catholic to public school, and I was amazed at how far behind they were from all we had studied. Studied? Perhaps the word "exposed to" is more appropriate. Some of us were not nice kids. Kai the Innocent ( ? ) |
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Post by Jaga on Jun 4, 2014 23:10:05 GMT -7
Kai the Innocent, glad that I did not have you in my class. I learned a lot but it is a very thankless job. If you do it right, nobody cares, if somebody is upset, suddenly everybody- students, parents and administration go after you  |
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Post by Jaga on Jun 4, 2014 23:11:14 GMT -7
Nictoe, I need to watch it. I never was good with school pranks since I was trying to be a good kid.... Karl, +++These young people are still children in the desquise of an adult, ++++yes, and we need to remember that they come from 13 to 14, 15 and not from 18 to 14  so they are growing up from less matured than the other way around I like you calling me a "school mistress", but please, do not do it again I know there were not any bad intentions there |
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Post by kaima on Jun 5, 2014 1:12:52 GMT -7
Kai the Innocent, glad that I did not have you in my class. I learned a lot but it is a very thankless job. If you do it right, nobody cares, if somebody is upset, suddenly everybody- students, parents and administration go after you Yes, I can understand that. It is like engineering, as it seems everyone thinks they can do your job simpler and better. So teachers become targets of parents when they expect kids to perform. With 50% of the population being below average, I must wonder what those parents were like as students. Not everyone was as sweet as I was! (yes, that is irony or sarcasm, I am not sure which). Kai |
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Post by karl on Jun 5, 2014 7:02:18 GMT -7
Nictoe, I need to watch it. I never was good with school pranks since I was trying to be a good kid.... Karl, +++These young people are still children in the desquise of an adult, ++++yes, and we need to remember that they come from 13 to 14, 15 and not from 18 to 14 so they are growing up from less matured than the other way around I like you calling me a "school mistress", but please, do not do it again I know there were not any bad intentions there Yes, thank you, I shall in future refrain from ever broaching the subject. Karl |
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Post by Jaga on Jun 5, 2014 22:11:26 GMT -7
I think I understand better people who had to deal with nasty people/kids on the daily basis, also these who work in customer services. I had to deal with some nasty parents and nasty students, but the most bitter is dealing with rude and primitive administration that does not provide any support so... they would turn anything against you.
Jaga, the loser
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Post by pieter on Jun 6, 2014 7:02:00 GMT -7
Jaga,
Don't call yourself a loser, because of those nasty parents and students of yours. They are just insecure and annoying. It's not your fault or aim to be targeted by these strange people.
Bullies, nasty pupils, students and parents you have in the Netherlands, Poland, Germany and the USA. I can imagine that they bother you and that they can be a nightmare for you.
I am sorry that your school administration is not of any support of you, but that they are part of the problem.
Have a nice weekend!
Cheers,
Pieter
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Post by pieter on Jun 6, 2014 8:57:01 GMT -7
Stop bullying
Dutch government add against bullying.
Child rap against bullying
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Post by Jaga on Jun 6, 2014 22:20:19 GMT -7
Pieter, thanks! Today was the last day at school and it was good, I will miss these kids and some teachers, but I would not miss the trailer....
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so they are growing up from less matured than the other way around