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Post by beatyfulsouls2 on Dec 28, 2015 22:44:47 GMT -7
This is the first time I do this but here it goes please no judging. If your going to say something mean rather no response at all. Thanks!
So I've been dating this polish guy for a couple months now and honestly it's been great. He has always been extremely respectful with me loving and supportive. We rarely ever have any disputes and usually if there's a problem were able to fix it and get back to normal. The communication is rather great. Now he's the problem he's polish and I'm Spanish. To me that's not an issue at all and neither for my family. I don't think it's so much of his family not liking me but the fact I'm not polish. He would want someone that can have a relationship with his mother which I would love and to me it's extremely important. The thing is the family barely speaks English if any at all. I'm willing to learn polish if things work out down the road but it's not the easiest language. But I'd want to communicate with them & be able to feel apart of the family. We're both very big on family which is something I truly love about him. His fear is that his parents won't be happy if he gets in a relationship or in future marries someone who isn't polish. He would do anything for his parents and sister literally anything. Even if it means he won't be happy. He says he really wants to be together and loves the connection we have & to him that's more important than trying to find a polish girl. He says ya he could find a polish girl but it doesn't mean it'll work. He sees it as your heart chooses who u want to be with. I have not met his parents they don't know anything yet. I've only met his sister which she was very sweet spoke English and polish and made me feel comfortable.
So my thing is does anyone have experience of dating a polish guy or girl and you weren't polish and let's say met the family? How was it ?
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Post by JustJohn or JJ on Dec 29, 2015 5:45:17 GMT -7
beatyfulsouls2,
You came to the right place. The situation that you are in is very similar to the situation that my wife was in. I am 100% Polish she is Scotts-English.
Well now, you would think my wife looked and acted like a troll or something when I introduced her to my mother. From that point forward she always tried to introduce me to nice Polish girls. My father hit the roof when he found out she was 6 years younger than me. Thought I was 'robbing the cradle'. Not only that but she is Episcopalian and not Roman Catholic.
Now we progressed to and after the marriage. We got married in Colebrook, NH in 1970 and we're still going strong. My mom was visibly impressed on my wife's capabilities. Two children later, a boy and a girl, and all is well. She even called her for help. My mom passed a number of years ago and we still chuckle on the situation we first started on.
Seems to me all Polish mothers are the same as mothers in any other ethnicity. They want for their children the same things that worked for them and that means the same.
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Post by Jaga on Dec 29, 2015 9:31:51 GMT -7
Hello beatyfulsouls2, I was ready to reply earlier, but somehow I got distracted. Nice to see you in the forum. John's answer was good also. I was born and lived in Poland. I have many Polish friends who married foreigners and have good loving marriages and families. Where do your boyfriends parents live? Is it a big city, small town or a village. I was born in a big city, people were used to international students and tourists. But if they are from the small city, it may be different especially in the beginning when they met you. Still, since you are from Europe and you look like them it should be OK after a while. Learn some Polish words, bring a gift from Spain, show that you are willing to keep some Polish tradition and foods and show that you care for your boyfriend. I have a website with info about many Polish traditions, just scan through it, culture.polishsite.us/www.polishsite.us/ |
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